MUST HAVES / CAN'T STANDS

With the approval of my leader is my list of Must Haves/Can't Stands in who I will marry one day!

INTELLECTUAL

MUST HAVE:

• Always wanting to learn something new
• Finished High School and wanting to grow
• Always seeking God's answers

CAN'T STAND:

• Immaturity
• Pride
• Unmotivated

SPIRITUAL

MUST HAVE:

• Leader
• Listener
• Wise
• Great Character
• Always seeking after God's best in everything
• Worshiper
• Seeks wisdom from his leader/s

CAN'T STAND:

• Stagnancy
• Lover of the world
• Controlled by his emotions

PHYSICAL

MUST HAVE:

• Fit
• Motivated
• Will keep me on my toes
• Always wanting to take trips (skiing, surfing, hiking, etc.)
• Handsome! (hawt)
• Fashionable
• Cares about his appearance
• Clean
• Creative, Creative, Creative!
• Spontaneous
• Funny
• Tattoos with meaning

CAN'T STAND:

• Fat
• Unmotivated
• Shorter than me
• Unkempt
• Messy living
• Boring
• Being Buddy-Buddy or still friends with ex girlfriends

FINANCIAL

MUST HAVE:

• Stability
• Provider
• Tither
• Generous
• Joyously hard worker

CAN'T STAND:

• Instability
• Greed

CHARACTER:

MUST HAVE:

• Man of his word
• Takes pride in his woman
• Loves the Lord more than his woman
• Romantic (flowers, planned nights, love letters, etc)
• He'll chase after me
• He's been praying for me years before even knowing me
• Leader
• Wise
• Provider
• Thinks outside the box

CAN'T STAND:

• Lethargy
• Liar
• Wishy/washy
• Disrespectful

CULTURAL AND FAMILY BACKGROUND:

MUST HAVE:

• Culturally diverse
• Lived outside of the USA at some point
• Exotic
• Completely healed of past family issues
• Family man
• Wants kids

CAN'T STAND:

• Pampered Momma's Boy
• Pushover
• Pride (attached to culture)
• Relational immaturity

THIS IS HOW I WANT TO BE IN THE MARRIAGE:

I want to not have to work, he will provide, but I'll be able to do the things that I love to bring in extra money, not needed money. I'll have dinner ready when he gets home from work. I'll honor him and let him have the final word as the head of the household, even if I disagree, and pray that the Lord will set him straight. We will NOT argue when we have a disagreement, instead, talk it through. There will never be any suspicions in our heads to question our love for one another. We'll always seek after the Lord and have exciting conversations about God for hours. We will work in our ministry together, travelling the world together.

OBSTACLES THAT I SEE HOLDING ME BACK:

My character needs to continue to build. I need to stand firm in seeing the Lord as my main and first love. I know I will need to work on my jealousy and suspicious mindset.